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Mary Durham's avatar

My sister and I are three years and three months apart, which translated to four grades growing up, and we have always been extremely close. Never wanted it any other way.

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Tarver Mills's avatar

Needed to hear this today. I thought I wanted a chose age gap (my daughter just turned 2) but we’re still not fully ready. Many of our friends are having their second already so we’re surrounded by the 2 under 2 and I keep worrying we’ve made a mistake; but your essay today helped confirm my gut feeling that waiting a little longer is what’s best for myself and my daughter.

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Sophie Hines's avatar

I know exactly how you feel. I remember really freaking out when everyone started getting pregnant the second time - it made me feel like there was something wrong with me for not being ready! But I am so, so glad I waited. Listen to your gut!

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Sophie Bryce's avatar

’m currently thinking about having a second (my daughter is 2 next month) and all I can think about is age gaps and the pros and cons of shorter/longer. I know it’ll all be fine in the end and this post was a reminder of that - thank you!

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